I, Hypocrite

Can we please talk about inclusive body positivity when someone has had plastic surgery?

Someone very close to me had a surgery many years ago. I didn’t agree with it, I still don’t and they know this. I’ve called myself body positive but I realized how hypocritical I am when I say that after realizing that I’ve been berating and bashing them for this choice they made about their own body for almost a decade now.

I am of the camp that one should love themselves as themselves because that’s the body you were born into and why should you change it just be happy with it. It’s a false position to be in given that, should the opportunity present itself, I would very happily become a cyborg (think Maj. Kisaragi Makoto from GitS, folks, not a robot).

It’s really strange to me how I could claim for so long to believe in other people’s right to dress how they want, color their hair (or not), break free from the mainstream (or not) and that that was their business and theirs alone, yet I’m over here policing someone else’s right to feel good about themselves in their own skin using a body mod I don’t particularly agree with.

And that’s what it all boils down to. Plastic surgery is body modification at its most simple, accepted form. I’m usually really great at making bridges between seemingly incompatible ideas, but that has somehow eluded me all this time until today.

I will admit fully that the credit for this epiphany goes to this video by the lovely YouTuber by the name of Peach MilkyTea who makes rather mellow beauty and style vlogs. Some people may look down on these because they’re about things like fashion and makeup, but I find them incredibly enjoyable not just because I care about that sort of thing, but because her positivity has really shone through in most of what she’s done. Her candid discussion of what is considered a taboo–admitting that one has had surgery at all–allowed me the opportunity to have this epiphany and for that I shall be eternally grateful to her. Maybe the above mentioned loved one will too…

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2 thoughts on “I, Hypocrite

  1. I’ll admit that I was against plastic surgery for a long time, too. Somehow, I, the person that has always supported modifications, managed to miss the memo that plastic surgery is just another form of modification. Yes, it requires surgery, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that some of the modifications I’ve found impressive over the years are surgical in some form.

    I wouldn’t want to get horns, but I’m always in awe when I actually see what people go through to get them. Maybe other people don’t approve, but they’re being true to themselves and doing what they want with their bodies, which is kind of what helped me turn a new leaf on my views of plastic surgery.

    After I realized that plastic surgery isn’t as bad as people make it out to be, it started really getting to me that people go ballistic over plastic surgery. I started thinking of all the magazines I’d see where they would compare “before” and “after” photos of celebrities to speculate on whether or not they had surgery. I realized that it isn’t, and never was, any of their business.

    People get harassed enough for getting plastic surgery to look the way they want. I don’t need to add to that. If I don’t like breast implants, I won’t get them. If I don’t want a nose job, I won’t get one. I have the right to choose, so why shouldn’t they? All of this contributed to my change of mind on the topic.

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    • I’m completely on board with Team Fake now because of the very reasons you’ve described.

      I have a lot of transgender friends. Knowing that they’re going to need surgery to complete their transition from the biological sex they randomly ended up with to the gender they identify with has really turned my attitude about the process around. Somehow THAT also escaped my notice.

      This is also about really loving and respecting others’ right to true fulfillment, self-actualization, self-acceptance, and self-respect. I don’t always love my body myself but I will be damned if I’m going to let a stranger tell a close friend that they’re wrong for wanting to use a tool of modern science to achieve their joy.

      What’s more, I came to this realization in no small part due to the horror film American Mary. An episode of My Strange Addiction featuring Justin Jedlica planted the seed, the film just helped it bloom. Funny how those associations work when we’re not actively fighting them nor even conscious of it.

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